Thursday, December 18, 2014

Can We talk About Sex for a Moment?

Renee Hildebrand

With online dating, many women often complain that men only want sex from them. However, according to lifestyle guru Johnny Soporno, there are basically two types of women: The kind of women men want to have sex with and the kind of women men don’t want to have sex with. And trust me; there are women that men don’t want to have sex with. It’s not necessarily true that there is someone for everyone. And if there is, some women’s choices are so limited; it feels like no choice at all. So for the record, the rest of this article is for when you have found a man that you are attracted to, you feel safe with and you have moved to the seduction phase of the relationship. 

Sex is a vital part of any relationship and it can make or break an otherwise wonderful couple. The biggest problem women have when it comes to sex is that they tend to be overly self-conscious. This leads to a lack of focus on what is going on, which leads to frustration and disappointment for both parties.

Not only that, some women also voice their insecurities, which makes it even worse. Ladies, you need to stop focusing on what you think is wrong with you and enjoy the moment. If he’s there with you and he is telling you that you turn him on, please believe him. After all, guys can’t fake it. Seriously, not in this instance. 

If he is in the bedroom with you, then he is already turned on by who you are right now. Pointing out your cellulite or trying to hide a part of your body for fear you might look fat or wobbly is like shining a spotlight on it for him to see, where he probably would never have noticed otherwise. Men just don’t see those things we think of as imperfections until you point them out.
Another problem many couples run into is that sex becomes routine and slowly dries up and disappears completely. Society is as much to blame for this as we are. We forget that sex is supposed to be fun as well as a great way to bond with your partner. 

In a relationship seminar conducted by a famous inspirational speaker, he told the story of a couple who were in their nineties and had been together for more than sixty years. However, they were still deeply in love with each other and it showed because they expressed themselves physically as well. So much so that the speaker suggested they might want to retire to their room. When asked what their secret was, the couple responded that, amongst other things, they would try anything once. If they liked it, they would do it again.

In other words, variety is the spice of life and sex is nothing to be ashamed of. The more variety you have in your sex life, the less likely it is that it will become boring and a matter of obligation rather than enjoyment. 

There are so many things you can do to keep your sex life interesting, from surprising your man with an impromptu romp to role-playing for him. You can be sure that he will definitely want to play along. Remember that it does not always have to be a Hollywood production of the perfect romantic evening. Sometimes a hot, sweaty, fast roll in the hay is exactly what the doctor ordered. You’ll also find that it is a great way to relieve tension as well. So go ahead. Live a little. Start enjoying more of the best part of life now.

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