Friday, October 31, 2014

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Franklin Renoir

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1.     Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2.     Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3.     Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence. 

4.     Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

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Thursday, October 30, 2014

Is Your Dating Profile Getting You Noticed By Quality Men?

Tony Roman

Getting responses from online dating sites would depend on how you “advertise” yourself.  Your online dating profile should attract your possible matches.  Because there are so many member users, getting your profile noticed may be a problem.  Whenever you are creating your user profile in any online dating site, honesty should be exercised.  Any kind of relationship is always rooted on honesty and trust. An honest profile means you are not changing any personal information just to attract more people.  

Studies showed that men are more visually-oriented while women would prefer checking the profile description.  Photos are important since these will be what people would keep pictured in their mind whenever they are chatting with you.  It may not be that important to you but it is definitely important to people who would be viewing your profile.   

If you want people to know your special interests like hiking or outdoor trekking then let your photos speak for you.  This would let people know something about you immediately and get the attention of those who have similar interests. But avoid posting a picture where users could barely recognize your face compared with the giant tree beside you.  Post the most recent one. 

Personal information
You do not have to use your full name, this is an important precaution since a full name and home phone number could be used to trace your home address and other important information.  Avoid using names like “nutty” and similar nicknames, such names would give a different impression.  Don’t just list the good things about you, you do not want to sound “too perfect,” they may mistake you for a scammer. Avoid writing sob stories like recent break-up or bitter previous relationships.  Don’t make it too long. 

Usually, profiles would need something that would catch the eye of the person looking at the database.  Nobody wants to read a profile that is shouting with desperation like “I’m begging you to check my profile.”  Boring requests like “please check my profile,” is not getting any attention either.  Overconfident headings like “I’m the sexiest man ever,” will sure capture interest but will fail to retain it if your photo and personal information do not match.  The best thing to do is write a creative heading.  You could change it from time to time.  Make sure to provide some thought on it, you could even check favorite books if they may have something that would match your personality.

Check, edit and update
Check your profile.  The reason why you may not be getting any messages is that your profile may have incorrect grammar or spelling. Aside from that, you can change or tweak it.  Maintain a positive attitude in your profile.  

When writing your online dating profile, make sure that it is simple and sincere.  Always focus on what you want.  Identifying what you want makes it easier for you to write your profile.  Besides, knowing your prospect would be able to help you understand who you are and what you want.

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Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Fantasy is Better Than Reality: Why Being Emotionally Available is Essential for Online Dating

Edward Brown. M.S.

The online dating space can be extremely brutal. After all, isn’t fantasy often better than reality? Don’t people often look better on paper or film than in real life? After years of being a mother or wife, you may find yourself entering the “Land of Singleness” as an empty nester or divorcee. 

So, your girlfriend recommends that you try online dating. She’s met some nice guys and believes that you may have similar experiences. But she’s been single for a long time and has adapted to the ups and downs of dating. However, you haven’t. This is all new to you. To be mentally and emotionally prepared requires a “Boot Camp” for enjoyable Internet dating experiences.

Here are a few suggestions for becoming emotionally available for online dating.

Embrace how technology has changed social relationships.  Online dating levels the playing field for men and women to pursue romantic relationships with similar assertiveness.  The difference between online dating and traditional dating is that online dating presents a 4-step process compared to the traditional 2-step process. The Traditional dating process involves, a.) Two people meeting in a common place or through formal introductions, and b.) The personal connection starts during the initial meeting. With online dating, the process is: a.) Each party searches for attractive prospects on a dating website, which creates a fantasy of visual and textual forms, b.) A correspondence and conversation take place where the beginning of reality is formed, c.) Two people meet for the opportunity to personalize the experience, and d.) A personal connection begins to solidify over time. In a society steeped in immediate gratification, the longer online dating process can be off-putting. By understanding and embracing this new dating process compared to the traditional mode of dating, you can remain open and optimistic to dating prospects.

There is no “skin in the game” until emotions are cultivated. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, be aware that online dating is dispassionate until the process gets to personal connections. Many women become turned-off by the process early, because they often operate from the traditional 2-step process of a random meeting turning into a personal connection. The Internet dating environment is devoid of magnanimity and altruism. This notion may appear contrary to an environment geared to love and romantic connections. But the technological component propels this initial coldness. To be successful in online dating, accept its dispassionate nature as a protective device due to the easy accessibility of meeting random people.  The best protection against this accessibility is a strong emotional shell. In this respect, you get an opportunity to effectively evaluate dating prospects in ways that traditional dating does not allow. Do not make any emotional investments into online dating, until you have reached the personal connection level.

Online dating is merely an opportunity for introductions. Online dating is a means for sparking initial interest that may lead to a substantial relationship. If online dating has any magic, it’s the ability to create something out of nothing. In your daily activities, you may be approached by 5 different men from work to lunch to home. In Internet dating, you may be approached by hundreds of men in the course of a day through your computer. Some women have found this Tsunami of online male interest overwhelming. Although the numbers can be daunting, this is the first time in human history that men and women have had this much access to one another.  At the end of the day, the democratization of the Internet allows you to participate at the level that you desire. Use this power to your advantage.

For single women over 40, you may have spent a great deal of your lives rearing children or maintaining a marriage.  Internet dating is an opportunity for a newfound freedom as well as regaining your youthful vitality. Despite the challenges of finding Mr. Right in a sea of possibilities, it’s the first time in human history that women have had this amount of social power in conjunction with financial and education self-determination. In the end, the benefits far outweigh the liabilities. Exploit this revolutionary opportunity and make it your own.

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Edward Brown, M.S. is a researcher and content marketer who has built an Internet information empire by helping individuals gain power, influence and love on the Internet.

Brown has advanced legal education from the University of Dayton School of Law and a master's degree in leadership development from Mercer University.

His company published Nicky T. Bond's book, Why My Pussycat Doesn't Purr: How Love Got Harder, When Sex Got Easier on Amazon Kindle.   

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

New Website Helps Single Black Women Over 40 Prepare for Online Dating

For immediate release:                                                                                     
October 29, 2014
12:00PM (EST)

Atlanta, GA—October 29, 2014---One Write Way (a subsidiary of Core Edge Image & Charisma Institute), a content marketing company, recently created a website that prepares single black women, ages 40-60, for online dating. One Write Way acts as a dating preparatory academy for black women by writing  dating profiles, providing dating advice and organizing mock dating opportunities for black women who are either new to online dating or want to increase their chances for meeting quality black men. The site is geared to empty nesters, divorcees, widows and professional women too busy to date traditionally.  After researching the challenges faced by black women entering the dating arena, One Write Way is preparing black women to have positive online dating experiences as well as supplement the efforts of major dating sites.

Founder and chief profile writer for One Write Way Edward Brown says, “Black women between the ages of 40 and 60 are an underserved market when it comes to dating.  Many women within this age group are experiencing a newfound freedom and youthful vitality after years of taking care of children or maintaining a marriage. Since the dating environment has changed dramatically over the years, we want to provide them with the tools to have fruitful dating experiences as well as recreate their second life as single women.”

One Write Way (a subsidiary of Core Edge Image & Charisma Institute) is a content marketing company that helps black women better position themselves for attracting, engaging and developing sustainable relationships with black men.  

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Monday, October 27, 2014

Are You Getting the Most Out of Your Dating Conversations?

 Edward Brown, M.S.

The biggest challenge facing black dating today is starting and maintaining open lines of communication. Black men and women are just not talking to each other. And any communication is superficial at best. So, what seems to be the problem?  In a nutshell, it’s the feeling that candor and honest communication may be off-putting to the other party. That if you fully express yourself, you will be judged and summarily ruled out for any physical and emotional connections. 

So, how can candid and open lines of communication bridge the gap between black men and women?

Here are a few tips for starting the process.

1.   Show genuine interest by asking relevant questions. Relevant questions serve as  a backdrop for getting better acquainted. Effective dialogue should be like a slow tennis match where both parties are spending time serving and responding to questions and answers. No one party should dominate the conversation despite the strengths of the personalities. If the other person only responds, but never initiates questions, a dialogue is not taking place. Sharing wants, desires and aspirations are the initial part of verbal intimacy.

2.   Ask and answer specific questions. If you ask the person if they are emotionally available for relationships, and you receive the response, “It depends on the person.” You have not received an answer. The person is either emotionally available or not at this time. Don’t take nonresponsiveness lightly. Some questions may be sensitive, but questions dealing with one’s relationship objectives are not irrelevant. If you find a person dodging or not answering reasonable questions, assume that this line of questioning is a source of discomfort to the person. You can decide to revisit the question at another time, but don’t let it go unresolved, if it’s important to you.

3.   After the conversation, reflect and analyze what you heard.  Getting your needs met starts with a conversation.  It has been said that you don’t get out of life what you deserve; you get out of life what you command. Approach every conversation with optimism, congeniality and directness. You are collecting information to see if there is a “fit.” Leave the emotions of past frustrations and disappointments out of the conversation. This is an opportunity to see if this person is willing to fulfill your emotional needs.

Candid dialogue and open lines of communication allow for close connections as well as a selection process for finding the ideal person to meet your emotional and physical needs. Take the opportunity to use conversations to get to the bottom line---in a nice way. Within 10 minutes, you can determine if this person has enough character to build a relationship upon.

Edward Brown, M.S. is a researcher and content marketer who has built an Internet information empire by helping individuals gain power, influence and love on the Internet.

Brown has advanced legal education from the University of Dayton School of Law and a master's degree in leadership development from Mercer University.

His company published Nicky T. Bond's book, Why My Pussycat Doesn't Purr: How Love Got Harder, When Sex Got Easier on Amazon Kindle.  

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